Everybody has a Some Day
As lawyers, judgment is something that is inextricably woven into the fabric of our work and our professionally trained minds. Spend a little time on social media, and you’ll see judgement is also increasingly a foundation of our broader society’s interpersonal discourse. Yet, as humans, this disposition doesn’t always serve us. The other day, a... Continue Reading →
Being a grown up. That big move. Marriage. Having kids. The promotion you’ve been working towards. The career you thought you wanted. We have great expectations. About all sorts of things. And it’s wonderful and exciting. Developing a vision for what is possible is powerful and motivating. It’s that fire that keeps you engaged and... Continue Reading →
We often speak of our different lives. Our work life. Our personal life. Our family life. Isn’t it true, though, that we have only, as Mary Oliver says, “one wild and precious life”? Worthy of pondering is what you will do with it in this lease of unknown duration. Also worth considering, I believe, is... Continue Reading →
One of the things that has surprised me as I’ve progressed in my journey of humaning is the important role that grieving plays in growing, healing and evolving. Like perhaps many of us, I often associated grieving almost exclusively with death. And, of course, that is one of the most profound forms of grief and... Continue Reading →
As Glennon Doyle so brilliantly says, “We can do hard things.” But…how? And, there are so many hard things. Having the hard conversation. Making the tough decision. Deciding on your next career move. Navigating a challenging health or relationship situation. Not knowing how any of it will go. Knowing only the hard and the uncertainty.... Continue Reading →
Ice Cube taught us that we need to check ourselves before we wreck ourselves. And, certainly, I’m a proponent of intentionality, thoughtfulness and self-reflection. But, how much checking is too much checking? Can you also wreck yourself by over checking yourself? It shows up time and again in our professional lives. That instinct to check... Continue Reading →
Each year at this time, as the birds start to chirp and the cherry blossoms burst in the cool spring skyline, I am taken with the metaphor of rebirth. For as long as I can remember, and most certainly since I was old enough to yearn for something more, this time gave me hope,... Continue Reading →
Humaning is hard. There are so many layers of humaning. Many break your heart. Racial and social injustice. Inequity, systemic and otherwise. War. Violence. Illness. Pain. Loss. Disappointment. Then, you add in all of the societal stuff. The messages of not enough. From the world and internalized in our own conditioning. Too old. Too young. ... Continue Reading →
For a long time in my career, I struggled to take vacation and to truly unplug if I did. I thrive on productivity and it always felt impossible to really step away. I remember the first time I read about unplugging being pro-productivity. And, pro lots of other things, including well-being. It was such a... Continue Reading →
I took up skiing later in life…once I was already indoctrinated in the legal school of risk aversion. At this point, for better or worse, it is second nature for me to think through all of the things that could possibly go wrong or present challenges and develop solutions for the event that they do,... Continue Reading →